S2#054 - Am I damned for eternity & have to suffer for the rest of my life for what I’ve done?

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The part of you that feels like the worst person alive - the part that's been waiting for someone to confirm that yes, you deserve every moment of this - that's who this episode is for.

In this episode, Alex goes directly at one of the most urgent questions in the aftermath of an affair: whether suffering is the price you have to pay to become a good person again. 

She talks about the difference between real accountability and self-punishment, why punishment keeps you stuck rather than changed, and what it actually means to meet the part of you that acted out - not condemn her.

Listen to this when:

You're caught in a loop of shame and can't see a way out of it

You feel like you have to keep suffering to prove you're sorry

You're doing everything "right" on the outside and still feel like you don't deserve to be okay

Someone is punishing you and part of you thinks you have it coming

This is not reassurance, but is is an invitation to stop using shame as a substitute for the real work.

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