52. Action is the Antidote w/David Mykel (Founder of PSYFI Performance Psychology

<p>Psychologist David Mykel says your feelings are garbage.... but your emotions are worth listening to. In this episode, David joins Mary and Connor to unpack why our brains fight us on the things we say we want, how to tell genuine exhaustion from resistance, and what to do when pushing harder stops working.</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>Frameworks and terms mentioned</strong></p><p><em><strong>From David:</strong></em></p><ul><li>Five minutes to freak</li><li>Name it and tame it</li><li>Own the pause</li><li>The power of one percent</li><li>Fact check your feelings</li><li>B3 — brain, body, breath</li><li>Safe space as founding principle: physical, mental, emotional</li><li>The "I'm not enough" wound</li><li>The "AI hot dog" (reticular activating system)</li></ul><p><br /></p><p><strong>From Mary:</strong></p><ul><li>The self-sabotage framework</li><li>ABC: antecedent, behavior, consequence</li><li>The STOP method — stop, take a pause, optimize your nervous system, proceed with intention</li><li>Run to the roar</li><li>Temper tantrum toots</li><li>The one percent</li></ul><p><br /></p><p><strong>Other References Made</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Viktor Frankl</strong> — the source David credits for owning the pause</li><li><strong>Tony Robbins</strong> — pain and pleasure; state, strategy, story</li><li><strong>Atomic Habits</strong>, James Clear — the one-percent principle</li><li><strong>Dr. Ralph Kilmann / the TKI</strong> — conflict modes, which Connor applies internally</li><li><strong>Alex Honnold</strong> — free solo climber; David and Connor address the "broken amygdala" claim</li><li><strong>Alex Hormozi</strong> — credited (loosely) for "everything you want is on the other side of hard"</li><li>The 90-second emotional peak</li><li>The claim that 50%+ of people abandon New Year's resolutions by mid-January</li><li>Hospice studies on end-of-life regret</li><li>Functional MRI research on amygdala and prefrontal cortex activity</li></ul>