How Do I Stop Yelling at My Child? With Devora Segall Ep. 144

If you’re a loving parent who sometimes finds yourself yelling at your child—and then immediately feels guilty—you are not alone. ❤️

In this episode of the Masterful Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by Devora Segall, LCSW, a therapist, certified DBT practitioner, parenting coach, and mother of ten, to talk about one of the most common struggles parents face: how to stop yelling and respond differently when we feel triggered and overwhelmed.

Why do so many loving mothers end up yelling at their children, even when they desperately want to parent differently?

Devora and I explore what happens beneath the yelling, what parents can do in the moment when they feel their emotions escalating, and how understanding our triggers can help us move from reacting to responding.

We also talk about how to set firm boundaries and expectations without sacrificing connection, because respectful parenting doesn’t mean having no boundaries—and calm parenting doesn’t mean never feeling frustrated.

Drawing on more than 20 years of experience working with children and families, Devora shares practical tools from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and parenting strategies that parents can actually use in real life.

In this episode, we discuss:

Why loving mothers can still lose their temper and yell

What happens when we become triggered or overwhelmed

Practical strategies for regulating ourselves before we react

How to respond instead of react

Setting boundaries without threats, punishment, or constant yelling