End the War in Your Relationship: Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt

<p>Join Harville &amp; Helen's online Getting the Love You Want weekend workshop for couples, Oct 23-25, 2026:<br><a href="https://harvilleandhelen.com/calendar/">https://harvilleandhelen.com/calendar/</a></p><p><br></p><p>What if there were a tool to end war in your relationship? Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, the founders of Imago Relationship Therapy, say the answer is not to work harder on yourself. We are wounded in relationship, and we heal in relationship. The healing lives in the space between you, and dialogue is the tool they have taught to couples for decades.</p><p><br></p><p>Courtney Wren-Mabbutt and Mike Elliott sit down with Harville and Helen for a warm, wide-ranging conversation on the practice that changed their own marriage: dialogue. Instead of two people talking in parallel monologues, one person sends, the other listens and mirrors back, and something in the nervous system finally relaxes. They explain, in plain language, why hearing is not the same as listening, and why feeling seen and heard is what makes a brain feel safe enough to open.</p><p><br></p><p>Along the way they name the fights every couple knows: the grievance that says "why are you doing it that way?", the unconscious wish that your partner would just be you, and the long road from opponents to partners. They share a story of dialogue used to end a border war between countries, in their account. They talk about why the self-love model is really an individual-paradigm answer, what Martin Buber's I-It and I-Thou distinction means at your kitchen table, and how couples who embody this end up changing everything they touch, including schools and workplaces.</p><p><br></p><p>There are practical takeaways too: move at the pace of connection rather than the pace of ambition, use curiosity and affirmation in everyday moments, and remember that the space between you is where two whole people grow. If you have ever felt like you were doing all the inner work and still ended up far apart from your partner, this conversation is for you.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Harville &amp; Helen resources:</strong><br>Official site:<br><a href="https://harvilleandhelen.com/">https://harvilleandhelen.com/</a><br><br>Online couples retreat, Oct 23-25, 2026:<br><a href="https://harvilleandhelen.com/event/getting-the-love-you-want-46/">https://harvilleandhelen.com/event/getting-the-love-you-want-46/</a><br><br>Getting the Love You Want (book):<br><a href="https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/gettin