Live Coaching Kathleen 3 (of 6): Facing Your Limiting Beliefs

<p>This is the third session (out of six) with my client Kathleen, and we explored options for the focus of our conversation as she didn’t have something in mind at the start—which is common with lots of clients.</p><p>There was palpable resistance for a good portion of the session, but then you’ll feel how the energy started to shift as Kathleen bravely stayed in the process.</p><p>Pay attention to the <strong>9-box exercise</strong> that you can use in your own life around your mindset towards job applications—or anything else that you completely loathe. The insight that came after I walked Kathleen through it might surprise you. It wasn’t about finding a new mindset that brought more levity to a task she despised, but rather about recognizing there was a different option that felt less heavy altogether.</p><p>Toward the end, we land somewhere you may not expect: <strong>celebration.</strong> Kathleen shared an incredible breakthrough that she had in the week between sessions. This led us to talk about how much easier it is to celebrate everyone else except ourselves.</p><p>We also talked about the relief and liberation in unhiding, and the difference between enthusiasm and optimism.</p><p>Tune in to hear what resistance looks and sounds like as an observer, and discover how you might be diminishing your own wins.</p><h3>Episode Highlights</h3><ul> <li>What resistance sounds like in a session, and why it isn't failure.</li> <li>Holding many truths at once, and what that looks like.</li> <li>Assessing the job before the application, and the implications.</li> <li>The nine-box exercise, and what it revealed about her job search.</li> <li>Commitment celebration and small daily wins.</li> <li>Enthusiasm versus optimism, and why optimism for yourself is the harder one.</li> <li>The tectonic plates effect: internal shifts that show up externally later.</li></ul><h3>Quotables</h3><blockquote> <p>“I can press on the gas all I want, but if the tree is blocking the car, the car is not going anywhere.” — Kathleen</p></blockquote><blockquote> <p>“It's so much easier for us to celebrate others than it is for us to celebrate ourselves.” — Tosca DiMatteo</p></blockquote><blockquote> <p>“For a long time I had a hard time believing that things were possible for me, but I could believe it to the moon and back for everybody else.” — Tosca DiMatteo</p></blockquote><h3>Tosca's Links and Resources</h3><ul> <li> Take the Inner Critic Compass Quiz:<br> <a href="https://www.tosc