Why Success Scares You More Than Failure

<p>I got invited to a big-deal track meet three years in a row. Three years, three excuses to my coach about why he needed to use the backup runner.I was not sick. I was terrified of being good at something in front of people.This one is unscripted and a little raw. I went live because I had just gotten off a call and needed to process something that surfaced during a social media detox in August: I am not afraid of failing. I am afraid of it working.We get into the difference between the two, because they are not the same fear. Fear of failure keeps you from starting. Fear of success lets you start, lets you get close, and then hands you a perfectly reasonable excuse to fumble it at the finish line.Then there is the neurodivergent layer, which nobody talks about. Never registering your own accomplishments. Rejection sensitivity. Reading visibility as danger. Collecting endless certifications so you never have to declare yourself qualified.I also walk through the four things I actually use with clients and on myself:• Name it, tame it, claim it (mine is named Vivian)• The experience timeline, which is basically an anti-resume• The cookie jar, a physical cure for success amnesia• Sprints instead of five and ten year goalsNot sure if this is your pattern or something else entirely? Start with the free Adventuring with ADHD quiz. Five minutes, no email gymnastics, and you will get a read on how your brain is actually wired.Take the quiz: victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz| Chapters |0:00 Intro0:42 The August detox that surfaced this1:43 What fear of success actually looks like2:38 Three years of bailing on the same race4:04 The diploma, the Peace Corps, and the pattern6:24 The ADHD layer nobody talks about9:16 Fear of failure vs fear of success10:56 Do you want it, or were you told to want it15:17 Name it, tame it, claim it17:40 The experience timeline and the cookie jar20:11 Sprints instead of 10 year goals21:52 The my grass is green problem| Shownotes |• Cookie Jar template: <a href="https://www.victoriouscoach.com/cookiejar" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.victoriouscoach.com/cookiejar</a> ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: <a href="https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz</a> 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: <a href="https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com</a>  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on &amp; buy me a coffee! <a href="https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg</a> 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it&#39;s actually wild]: <a href="https://openinapp.link/sio" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://openinapp.link/sio</a>___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: <a href="https://www.victoriouscoach.com/linkz" rel="noopener noreferrer">victoriouscoach.com/linkz </a></p>