DEEP DIVE: When Kids Fight You on Everything

This Deep Dive series is all about reducing the friction between ourselves and our kids when trying to communicate with them, whether it's yelling less, finding real reasons for constant defiance, or picking our battles.

We've all had times when our kids resist every. single. thing. you tell them to do. When is it part of a larger problem, and even if it's not, how do we manage the exhausting defiance?

Amy and Margaret discuss:

How to keep track of a kid's defiance in order to figure out where it's coming from

Gut-check questions to ask yourself to ascertain where ODD might be what's happening

the "two free requests" approach

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Katherine Lee for VeryWell Family: ⁠Effective Ways to Handle Defiant Children⁠

Royce Flippin for Additude: ⁠Why Is My Child So Angry and Defiant? An Overview of Oppositional Defiant Disorder⁠

Dr. Douglas Riley: ⁠The Defiant Child: A Parent’s Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder⁠

Mount Sinai Parenting Center: ⁠Positive Opposites⁠

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