It's OK Not to Know: What to Do When the Furniture Is Shifting

Have you ever felt ashamed or frustrated that you didn't know the answer? Not to a clinical question, but about your own life - what's next, what's wrong, why you feel the way you do?

If you're the one everyone relies on, not knowing can feel like failing at the one thing you're supposed to be good at. This is a replay from 2024 I'm bringing back while I’m writing my book ‘How to Say No When Someone Might Die’. One of the things I keep coming back to in the book is how much of the load we carry isn't about the work at all. It's our ingrained programming that tells us we have to have the answer to feel good enough. And when we don't, it will affect your next decision, and the one after that.

In this episode we revisit what to do when the furniture is shifting, and why wait and see can be a strategy.

We cover:

Why high achievers feel shame when they don't know what's nextShifting furniture - what to do when life is reconfiguring and you can't see where things will landYour left brain interpreter - and why it makes up catastrophic stories to feel safeZone of Power - what is actually yours to carry, and what isn'tWhy wait and see is a valid, proactive strategy, not avoidanceThe next best action when you feel discombobulated

This episode is for you if... you are a doctor or professional, a high achiever in a leadership role who has to have the difficult conversation nobody else will, has to make the call someone disagrees with, and lies awake replaying a decision you had to make. If not knowing feels like not being good enough, this one is for you.

You are not a frog.

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