S2 E51 ADHD Women and the Person We Thought We’d Be by Now

Birthdays have a way of making you look at the person you thought you’d be by now.

For ADHD women diagnosed later in life, that can mean confronting decades of expectations: the organized version of you, the consistent one, the one who finally gets her shit together and stops having to try so hard.

But what if becoming her was never supposed to be the goal?

Jess and Jeannine talk about ADHD masking, inconsistent capacity, the grief that can come with a late ADHD diagnosis, and the belief that someday you’ll become easier for yourself and for everyone around you.

That realization reaches into relationships, boundaries and the years she spent believing she needed to change before she had earned the right to have needs and take up space.

Maybe the question isn’t why you never became the woman you imagined.

Who did you become while you were so busy looking for her?