Showing Up Beyond Good Intentions: Teaching Presence in an Awkward World with Jen Marr

📝 Episode Synopsis

After tragedy, many people want to help—but few know how.

In this episode of Classroom Narratives, Dr. Joey Weisler speaks with Jen Marr, founder of Showing Up LLC, whose work supporting the Sandy Hook community and responding to the Boston Marathon tragedy reshaped her understanding of empathy, leadership, and human connection.

Together, they explore why showing up isn't simply a personality trait—it's a skill. From navigating uncomfortable conversations to recognizing the "awkward zone," Jen shares how educators, school leaders, and everyday people can move beyond fear, avoidance, and fixing to create authentic relationships that help others feel seen.

Whether you're supporting a student in crisis, leading a faculty through uncertainty, or simply trying to become a more present human being, this conversation offers practical insights into building classrooms—and communities—where connection comes before correction.

📋 Show Notes

👉 In this episode, we discuss:

Why showing up is a skill—not an instinct.What Jen learned while supporting the Sandy Hook Elementary community through comfort dog therapy.How good intentions often fail to become meaningful support.The hidden loneliness people experience after trauma and loss.The four "Awkward Zone" responses that prevent authentic connection:The DoubterThe DeflectorThe FixerThe AvoiderWhy educators don't need to rescue students—they need to remain present.The difference between caring and carrying another person's pain.The importance of relationship-building through consistent micro-moments.How classrooms can intentionally cultivate belonging, visibility, and trust.Why today's students need explicit opportunities to develop interpersonal connection in an increasingly digital world.Jen's "barbell" model of support, balancing clinical care, self-care, and everyday human presence.Practical ways teachers and leaders can make every student feel seen.

🔗 Links and Resources

📌Jen Marr's website: Showing Up LLC

📌 Showing Up: A Comprehensive Guide to Comfort & Connection

📌 Lifting Up: The Transformative Power of Supportive Leadership