You Don't Want The Tea, You Want The Ego Stroked

"You don't want tea, my love. You want your ego stroked. You want a guy in your ear telling you he misses you and loves you and made a mistake, but there ain't no tea here. The kettle is broken."

Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Two of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships and boundaries, but today we start with a little foreplay for our audio listeners before diving into some deep family dynamics.

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Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

Dilemma 1 ('Confused Gal' & The Circling Ex): An ex from 8 years ago randomly messages after building a life with someone else and having a child, claiming he 'loves' her and wants to meet. Candice and Bode break down why he doesn't want tea—he wants an ego stroke—and the spiritual/karma realities of messing with a family man. Dilemma 2 (Do You Owe It To Your Kids To Find An Absent Father?): A listener who has never met her father asks if she owes it to her children to track him down. Candice and Bode discuss 'stranger danger', who the search is really for, 'relentless hope', and the painful dynamic of watching an absent parent become a great grandparent. Housekeeping & OOTP: Off-white Issey Miyake stole, Gucci designer headscarf, Fenty Beauty blue mascara, and Mordella ear stack.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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