The Psychology of Intimate Relationships with Dr. Harry Reis

<p>What actually makes us feel close to another person?</p><p></p><p>Is chemistry enough to build a lasting relationship? Do opposites really attract? Is conflict a sign that something is wrong? And can someone genuinely love us while still failing to make us <i>feel</i> loved?</p><p></p><p>In this episode of <b>Ego Over Id</b>, we sit down with renowned relationship scientist <b>Dr. Harry Reis</b>, Dean’s Professor of Psychology at the University of Rochester and co-author of <i>How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most</i>.</p><p></p><p>Drawing from more than five decades of research on social interaction and close relationships, Dr. Reis shares with us what relationship science actually tells us about intimacy, chemistry, compatibility, vulnerability, listening, conflict, attachment, and love.</p><p></p><p>One of the central ideas of our conversation is surprisingly simple: <b>being loved and feeling loved are not necessarily the same thing.</b></p><p></p><p>For intimacy to develop, we need more than another person’s good intentions. We need to experience them as someone who understands us, appreciates us, and cares about us—a concept relationship researchers call <b>perceived partner responsiveness</b>.</p><h2>How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most</h2><p>Dr. Reis is the co-author, with happiness researcher <b>Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky</b>. The book explores a deceptively important distinction: many people are loved but don't consistently <i>feel</i> loved.</p><p></p><p>Learn more about the book, explore its resources, and take the authors’ quiz: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://howtofeelloved.com/?utm_source=chatgpt.com" target="_blank">How to Feel Loved — Official Website</a></p><h2>Resources</h2><p><b>Dr. Harry Reis — University of Rochester</b><br /><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.sas.rochester.edu/psy/people/faculty/reis_harry/?utm_source=chatgpt.com" target="_blank">Faculty Profile &amp; Research</a></p><p><b>How to Feel Loved</b><br /><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://howtofeelloved.com/?utm_source=chatgpt.com" target="_blank">Official Book Website</a></p><p><b>More on Dr. Reis's relationship research</b><br /><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.rochester.edu/newscenter/online-dating-apps-find-your-love-relationship-science-549422/?utm_source=chatgpt.com" target="_blank">University of Rochester — Rel