212. Raising Spiritually Strong Children: Love & Logic Parenting with Dr. Charles Fay

<p><strong>Get Dr. Fay&#39;s Book </strong><a href="https://link.amazon/B08kTiwIZ " target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><strong>HERE</strong></a></p><p>I am SO thrilled about today’s conversation!</p><p><br></p><p>I have been a Love &amp; Logic fan since 2002. That was over a decade before I had children of my own. I was nannying for a family who introduced me to Love &amp; Logic, and I was fascinated by it. At the time, I was studying children’s literature and already had a degree in Communication for the Child, so I was deeply interested in the way adultscommunicate with children and how those interactions shape them.</p><p><br></p><p>A lot of those early Love &amp; Logic ideas stayed with me. I carried them into my own motherhood, and over the years I’ve referenced Love &amp; Logic more times than I could possibly count.</p><p><br></p><p>Although, I did eventually get myself into a little trouble with the moms in my life because I started shortening Love &amp; Logic to “logical parenting.” And sometimes I would say that I was trying to “be logical” about something.</p><p><br></p><p>Well. Apparently, that sounded an awful lot like I was calling everyone else illogical. There were some very offended moms in those conversations. Thankfully, it makes for a pretty funny story now.</p><p><br></p><p>But all of that is why I was especially excited when I was invited to interview Dr. Charles Fay about his newest book, <em>Raising Spiritually Strong Children</em>. Because this isn’t just Love &amp; Logic. It’s Love &amp; Logic through the lens of faith, and I found so much in this book that made me stop, underline, and say, “Yes.”</p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Fay talks about empathy, responsibility, fear, self-control, relationships, and the way our deepest beliefs shape the way we parent. But underneath all of it is this beautiful reminder that our goal isn’t simply to get our children to behave. We are raising people, and our relationships with them matter.</p><p><br></p><p>One of the ideas that really stayed with me is this: “Systems are temporary. Relationships are everlasting.”</p><p><br></p><p>And another is the reminder that we cannot perfectly model faith, wisdom, patience, or self-control for our children all the time. We are imperfect people. But we can keep practicing. We can repair. We can model what we want to see. And we can point our children toward a Godwhose love and grace are so much bigger than our own.</p><p><br></p><p>I had such a rich conversat