Finding New Waters

← Finding New Waters20 août · 42 min

Overcoming Resentment, High-Accountability AA, & Finding Purpose with Jim Boland

Overcoming Resentment, High-Accountability AA, & Finding Purpose with Jim Boland20 août42 min

<p>In this episode of Finding New Waters, host B. Reeves sits down with attorney and Crosstalk Podcast co-host Jim Boland (Jim B.). Celebrating 13 years of continuous sobriety, Jim shares his personal recovery journey from growing up in an Irish Catholic family in Chicago to navigating self-sabotage in college and law school, hitting an emotional rock bottom, and eventually rebuilding a life centered on deep fellowship and purpose.</p><p><br></p><p>Jim and B. Reeves discuss what it truly means to break &quot;crosstalk&quot; rules for the sake of honest connection, the power of high-accountability step work, overcoming deep-seated resentments, and managing seasonal depression and emotional sobriety. Jim also reflects on how moving to Winston-Salem, North Carolina and launching his cloud-based law practice allowed him to build a thriving sober community and help others find their way.</p><p><br></p><p>TIMESTAMPS</p><p>00:00 Episode Intro &amp; B. Reeves Introduces Jim Boland</p><p>00:52 Jim Thanks B. Reeves for Crisis Help &amp; How Crosstalk Podcast Started</p><p>02:33 The Origin of &quot;Crosstalk&quot; &amp; Breaking Traditional AA Meeting Rules</p><p>03:40 High-Accountability Meetings &amp; Monday Night Hazelden Action Groups</p><p>06:36 Jim&#39;s Story: Growing Up Irish Catholic in Chicago &amp; Family Addiction</p><p>08:10 Early Sabotage, Panic Attacks, &amp; Self-Destructive Patterns</p><p>09:40 First AA Meeting at 24 &amp; Going Back Out for 5 Years</p><p>10:36 Success on the Outside, Crumbling on the Inside &amp; Denver Law School</p><p>11:09 Moving in with His Sober Brother &amp; Realizing He Couldn&#39;t Stop Alone</p><p>12:37 &quot;He Could Hold a Grudge Worse Than Anyone&quot;: Resentments &amp; Emotional Bottom</p><p>13:17 Connecting with Co-Host Jake Kaufman &amp; Throwing Himself into Fellowship</p><p>14:22 B. Reeves on Crossing the &quot;Rubicon of Fellowship&quot; &amp; Dropping the Ego</p><p>17:09 Praying on Your Knees in Public &amp; 10 Pushups on the Golf Course</p><p>19:55 &quot;It&#39;s Not for People Who Want It, It&#39;s for People Who DO It&quot;</p><p>21:48 &quot;The Bottom is Wherever You Decide to Stop Digging&quot;</p><p>24:20 Emotional Sobriety, Hitting Rock Bottom Clean, &amp; Seeking Therapy</p><p>26:48 Facing Chicago Winters, Seasonal Depression, &amp; Finding Purpose</p><p>31:15 Running the Crosstalk Podcast &amp; Connecting Sober Voices</p><p>35:55 Traveling &amp; Finding Fellowship in AA Meetings Everywhere</p><p>36:54 Cl