His Bills. Her Load. No Sex. Who Is Right?

We unpack why the “mental load” debate hits so hard in a sexless marriage, and why one partner’s silence is not the absence of responsibility. She often carries the micro load: noticing, planning, remembering, anticipating what might go wrong. He often carries the macro load: work, money, safety, the pressure he never names. Both can be anxious. Both can feel unseen. And when criticism, control, and withdrawal take over, intimacy has nowhere to land. This episode is not about picking a vill...