Why I'm Not Threatened When Other Men Want My Wife | Infinite Devotion Episode 151

Dawn sat down with a list of questions and didn't tell me what was on it. We were both in tears within the first five minutes.

A few weeks ago I posted, "I don't want you to be mine. I want you to be free and choose to stay." On Facebook it reached over a million people, and plenty of them were angry. One said that giving a partner that much freedom will turn even the best person into a bully. Another asked if it meant Dawn was done surrendering. This episode answers both. It's also the first time I've told the story of what happened on a beach in Los Angeles seven months ago, when I asked Dawn to stand up.

We also get into why most men's ideas about leading are really about getting, what faith becomes once it stops being a way to avoid questions, and why male, man, and masculine mean three different things.

In this episode:

What we each love about ourselves and each other (it got emotional fast)

The beach in LA, and why I asked Dawn to stand before offering her a new symbol of her surrender

Dawn on finding her own wholeness and choosing to follow from there instead of from self-abandonment

Why freedom doesn't turn your partner into a bully, and why I don't set boundaries on what Dawn can do

Two sentences that make everything make sense: there are no contradictions, and check your premises

Why your body sometimes has to learn to trust you again before you can fully trust it

Walking out of Catholic education at 13, and what faith means to us now

Male, man, and masculine, and what actually makes a male become a man