EP 557: Discovering What You Want After a Lifetime of Doing What Everyone Else Wants with Eliza

Growing up, Eliza learned that having a stable job meant you were doing well—and that people who didn't have one could be viewed as lazy or unable to get their lives together. She also missed an important developmental stage: the freedom to discover what she liked, who she was, and how she naturally wanted to express herself.

Now, through raising her own children, Eliza has an opportunity to give herself something she didn't receive: permission to discover herself without pressure.

Together, Christine and Eliza explore identity, people-pleasing, parenting, boundaries, self-worth, generational patterns, and the difference between who you truly are and the roles you play in the world.

If you've ever thought, "I should know what I want by now," or felt ashamed because your career doesn't look the way you thought it would, this episode offers a powerful invitation: stop forcing yourself to have the answer and allow yourself to enter a season of discovery.

Press play to explore how reconnecting with your authentic self may bring far more clarity than trying to force yourself into another role.

Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel pressure to have your career or next chapter figured out?

Was your worth growing up connected to achievement, productivity, or having a "good" job?

Are you making choices based on what you genuinely want—or what you believe other people will approve of?

Did you have the freedom as a child to discover your interests, preferences, and authentic self?

Have you confused your job, career, or other roles with your identity?

Where might people-pleasing be making it harder to hear your own desires?

Key Insights and A-Ha's Not knowing what you want doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with you. You may never have been given enough space to discover it.