Richard Glover's read all the parenting books. Here's how you ruin a child

Parenting doesn't come with an instruction manual. But if you're looking for advice, there are endless tomes out there decreeing the dos and don'ts.

Since Dr Spock, so-called "experts" have been making parents feel guilty about the myriad ways they'll inevitably screw up their kids.

These days, there is so much conflicting information it can feel impossible to sort what's useful from what's total rubbish. So what do we actually need to worry about when it comes to raising kids, and what can we let go?

And what might we learn about the way we were parented from looking back at the advice our own parents were working with?