Answering Your Questions! - What to do when you should love, but you want to argue?

<p>Peter &amp; Theresa begin answering the questions coming in from you, our listeners! </p><p>Today&#39;s question is about dialogue communication. How do you simply listen and love when you feel such a need to argue and debate?</p><p>In order to answer it, the Martins explain all about dialoguing and keeping first things first!</p><p>What happens when your spouse feels that no matter what they feel, they are worthy of love? </p><p>When it gets challenging, learn the Martins&#39; tip for visualizing the problem!</p><p><strong>Love the podcast? </strong><a href="https://secure.qgiv.com/for/becomeawciangel/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><strong>Become a WCI Angel! </strong></a><strong></strong></p><p><em>(Theresa&#39;s first cooking episode will be released soon in the VIP access room!)</em></p><p><a href="https://www.wojtylaci.com/marriage-retreats-events" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><em>Find a retreat near you!</em></a></p><p><em>Haven&#39;t read the book yet? </em><a href="https://www.wojtylaci.com/store/the-rule-st-john-paul-ii-s-rule-for-a-joy-filled-marriage-of-divine-love" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"><em>Get it here!</em></a></p><p><br></p><p>How to Dialogue:</p><p>The ‘Dialogue’ method of communication has been taught for decades, and it is incredibly helpful! We each have a deep longing to be fully known and fully loved.</p><p>This method allows you to share with your spouse and truly hear them, not to discuss or argue, but to accept them and love them in their “real” of that moment.</p><p>Every person communicates on several levels, and each level brings more vulnerability and more intimacy: 1) “small talk,” 2) “facts.” 3) “opinions” ... The fourth and fifth levels are “feelings” and “needs.&quot;</p><p> It is not a time to sort out schedules or even plans for the future. It is an opportunity to hear the feelings and emotions of your beloved and respect them with great love. When your innermost feelings are respected and understood, you feel loved; you feel worthy. Not only that, but it fortifies the unity between you and gives more foundation for your conjugal spiritualty to grow. </p><p>It takes about 20-30 minutes altogether, but can be broken up. There are a couple parts to the Dialogue and then, when complete, you can segue to a discussion, if you want.</p><p>A)Begin by asking a question. For example, let’s use: “What was one of my favorite dates with you? How do I feel about my answer?” And you write thi