31. Senior Living Secrets: What They Won't Tell You Before You Choose

If you're staring down the decision to move your mom or dad into senior living, nobody warns you about the stuff that actually matters. Nobody tells you what bedrails are for, who handles diabetic management and insulin, or what happens if your parent needs colostomy care, catheter care, or help with basic ADLs like bathing, dressing, and grooming. You just know you're scared, you feel guilty, and you don't know what questions to even ask.

That's why I sat down with Cassandra Plaisir, a registered nurse and ALF consultant with 18 years in long-term care, home health, and regulatory compliance. In this episode, Cassandra breaks down the real differences between standard assisted living, memory care for Alzheimer's and dementia, limited nursing services, limited mental health facilities, and extended congregate care for aging in place. She explains why a brittle diabetic on a sliding insulin scale may need a nurse on staff, why being bed bound or wheelchair bound changes admission eligibility, and the exact questions to ask so you walk in as a smart consumer instead of an easy sell. This isn't theory. This is the inside scoop from someone who has done the assessments herself.

You are not a bad daughter for needing help, and you are not betraying your parent by admitting you can't do it alone. Take a deep breath. You don't have to fix everything today, and you don't have to figure this out by yourself. Next time, Cassandra is back to cover what happens after the move, medication management, bedrails, wound care, and the blood clot signs every family needs to know. Stay with us for part two.

Guest: Cassandra Plaisir, RN, ALF Consultants — reach her at alfconsultant.com or cassandraplaisir@alfconsultant.com

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Topics covered: assisted living facilities, memory care, Alzheimer's and dementia care, limited nursing services, extended congregate care, aging in place, diabetic management, brittle diabetic, sliding scale insulin, bed bound admission criteria, wheelchair bound, colostomy care, catheter care, ADLs, limited mental health, senior living costs

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