Engaging Your Brain in Repair and Recovery

John Taylor and Tami explore the importance of engaging executive functioning in relationship repair and recovery. John offers several questions that partners can ask to jump-start engagement in rebuilding trust. They then answer participant questions about transactional relationships, realistic expectations for change after 25 years of betrayal, and the reality of building a relationship with someone who is selfish.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:10] Why your brain stops working after D-day.

[4:30] Hypervigilance is your brain trying to keep you safe.

[6:45] Questions to ask that engage the frontal lobe.

[7:30] What are we doing here?

[13:58] What are our priorities?

[17:35] What roles and responsibilities do we need to step into?

[21:37] What am I personally doing to align with these priorities?

[25:45] Have I considered my partner in my actions?

[29:44] Effectively reducing tension in a partnership.

[33:26] Do you really want it to go back to how it was before?