Ep 81 with Lauren LaRusso, MSEd, LPC, LMHC: They Cheated. Why Am I Doing the Work?

If I didn't cause the affair, why am I the one who has to do all this work to heal from it?

That's a fair question. You didn't choose the betrayal. You didn't choose the lies, the loss of safety, or having the life you thought you had suddenly blown apart.

So why should you have to change?

Lauren LaRusso and I get into that question in this episode, because there's an important distinction here:

Doing your own healing does NOT mean taking responsibility for someone else's infidelity.

It doesn't excuse what they did.

It doesn't make the affair okay.

And it doesn't let the unfaithful partner off the hook.

Your healing is about YOU.

Lauren is a licensed psychotherapist, infidelity expert, author, and betrayed spouse herself. She knows what it's like to want the life you had before discovery back — and to eventually realize that after betrayal, there really is no going back to exactly what was.

So what do you do with that?

In this episode, we talk about: