Being Made Love To vs With #803

<p>He loves his wife. He’s attracted to her. They have sex about once a week and he’s grateful for it. She says she enjoys their time together.</p>

<p>And something is still missing.</p>

<p>She prefers to be made love to — to receive, to respond, to be the object of his attention and desire. He’s the one who initiates, who directs, who carries the encounter. She’s present and warm and willing. And he finds himself wanting something he can’t quite name and doesn’t know how to ask for without creating the very pressure that would make it impossible.</p>

<p>What he’s noticing is the difference between being made love to and being made love with.</p>

<p>Being made love to is real and valuable. Receiving well — being present, responsive, letting someone give to you fully — that’s not nothing. But it’s a different experience than two people creating something together. One person is the object of desire. The other is a subject in their own right.</p>

<p>He knows what she responds to. He probably doesn’t know what she wants. There’s a difference.</p>

<p>And she may never have asked herself what she’d bring to the encounter if she took the wheel. Not because he’s asked her to. Just because it might actually be more interesting.</p>

<p>Corey and Pam sit with both sides of this one — what it costs him to always be the driver, what she might be missing by staying in the passenger seat, and what it would look like for both of them to show up as full participants.</p>

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