Your Personality Is Not Fixed with Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala

<p>In this insightful and highly practical episode of the SuperSelf Podcast Series, Pete Ferrari sits down with clinical psychologist, professor, researcher, and founder of The Personality Compass, Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala, to challenge one of the biggest assumptions we make about ourselves: <em><strong>that our personality is fixed.</strong></em></p><p>According to Shannon, personality is not some permanent essence we are born with and stuck with forever. Scientifically, personality is made up of our characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving, and those patterns can change.</p><p>Together, Pete and Shannon explore how childhood experiences, reinforcement, fear, relationships, success, failure, and the stories we repeatedly tell ourselves can shape the way we show up in the world. More importantly, they discuss how those same principles can be used intentionally to build new patterns.</p><p>Pete gets personal about the anger and aggression that helped him survive childhood bullying but sometimes creates problems in adult life. Shannon explains why the answer is not to shame yourself for an unwanted trait or completely reinvent who you are. Instead, she encourages people to understand what that behavior has been doing for them, identify whether it still serves the life they want, and begin running small behavioral experiments.</p><p>From people-pleasing, perfectionism, procrastination, confidence, parenting, and emotional reactivity to the Big Five personality traits and Shannon’s Thinking, Doing, and Being framework, this conversation offers an evidence-based roadmap for becoming more intentional about who you are.</p><p>You do not need to become a completely different person.</p><p>Sometimes the goal is simply moving the dial from a ten to a nine.</p><p><strong>Episode Highlights:</strong></p><ul><li><p>06:09 – Why personality change should begin with your values and the person you want to become</p></li><li><p>18:07 – How to determine whether your current personality traits still serve you</p></li><li><p>27:48 – Parenting according to your values instead of copying everyone around you</p></li><li><p>34:34 – The Thinking, Doing, and Being framework</p></li><li><p>46:40 – The danger of using “that’s just the way I am” as an excuse</p></li><li><p>53:25 – Why the biggest learning happens when reality contradicts your expectations</p></li></ul><p><strong>Key Takeaways:</strong></p><ul><li><p>Your personality is not a life sentence. Changing pe