Where Gay Men Find Home + Your Messiest Sex & Relationship Questions EP 798

Steve V and Lincoln are back together for a wide-ranging episode that starts with a little nostalgia—and quickly gets a whole lot more personal.

Inspired by a conversation about the places gay men found community after coming out, Steve and Lincoln look back at where they first truly felt at home as gay men. Was it a bar? A club? A bathhouse? A group of friends? Sometimes finding your place—and your people—is almost like coming out all over again.

Then it’s time to put on their completely unofficial advice hats.

Steve and Lincoln dive into listener-style sex, dating and relationship dilemmas, sharing their perspectives, experiences and probably a few opinions nobody asked for. From navigating sexual expectations and communication to figuring out what we actually want from another person, they get candid about the complicated—and sometimes ridiculous—situations gay men find themselves in.