What Your Kids Learn When You Bet on Yourself

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You've read all the books about raising a confident son or daughter. You want your kids to believe they can do hard things. But the minute a grown woman says the same thing about herself, out loud, that she’s ambitious and chasing more and not one bit sorry, it suddenly feels vain.

This episode is about that gap, because our kids' confidence has almost nothing to do with the pep talk in the car and everything to do with what they see us do with our own calling.

Kids learn confidence the same way they learn everything else: by watching. And whatever they see becomes their whole idea of what life is like for a grown woman.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Why confident motherhood is caught more than taught, and what your kids are actually absorbing when you talk yourself out of your own growthHow to spot the moment so many women quietly decide they're "finished becoming," usually somewhere after motherhoodWhat it teaches your kids when you fail in front of them and get back up anywayWhy we'll invest in tutors, coaches, and $200 soccer cleats without flinching but stop investing in ourselvesOne small, concrete move to make this week that models a life of growth for the people watching you at home

Timestamps:

(00:29) - The double standard: we cheer a nine-year-old's ambition and call our own vain

(01:07) - Our kids are learning from us whether we mean to teach it or not

(01:31) - Confidence is caught, not coached: how a child imprints on "normal"

(02:00) - The moment a lot of us decide we're finished becoming

(02:32) - Kids catch all of it: how we talk about ourselves, the apologies we tack on