(Replay) Mismatched libidos with Kai Werder

<p><strong>(Replay from 2020)</strong></p><p><br></p><p>What happens when one person wants sex more often than the other?</p><p><br></p><p>In this conversation with sex educator Kai Werder, we talk about mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, how to talk about sex without pressure, and why intimacy doesn’t always have to lead to sex.</p><p><br></p><p>We also get into scheduling play, creating the conditions for desire, and the three-part invite—one of my favorite ways to ask for what you want while making room for a no.</p><p><br></p><p>New episodes of The Love Drive return in October.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Got a question for the October Q&amp;As?</strong><br><a href="https://thelovedrive.com/ask/">https://thelovedrive.com/ask/</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Further reading</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593500822?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback" target="_blank">Come Together - Emily Nagoski<br></a><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316/146-3150061-5407763?pd_rd_w=Ks1wk&content-id=amzn1.sym.aa738fbd-ad05-4d11-aae2-04b598db6305&pf_rd_p=aa738fbd-ad05-4d11-aae2-04b598db6305&pf_rd_r=EWWH6G0SJN2K9CGP92S6&pd_rd_wg=qgUdD&pd_rd_r=a563680a-5201-4f9b-b163-78e0dee16e54&pd_rd_i=1982165316&psc=1" target="_blank">Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski</a><br><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060753641?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback" target="_blank">Mating in Captivity - Esther Perel</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Also mentioned</strong></p><p>Authentic Seduction Skills with Dr. Alison Ash — this is where I learned the three-part invite.<br><a href="https://podfollow.com/the-love-drive/episode/3900940fd2e9914e8a286be8739a4db830767af5/view?utm_source=chatgpt.com">Listen to Authentic Seduction Skills with Dr. Alison Ash</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Follow &amp; Subscribe</strong></p><p>If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Connect with me</strong></p><p>Read the blog: <a href="https://shaungalanos.substack.com">https://shaungalanos.substack.com</a><br>The Love Drive Podcast: <a href="https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/">https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/</a><br>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/">https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/</a><br>More about me: <a href="https://shaungalanos.com/about/">https://shaungalanos.com/about/</a></p>