#45: 4 Biggest Myths About Healing from Purity Culture

<p>I recorded this one completely unedited on a walk in my baby free time, busting the 4 biggest myths I see keeping people stuck when it comes to healing from purity culture.</p><p>Myth 1: Healing means swinging to the opposite extremeI break down why you don&#39;t have to go from &quot;don&#39;t do this&quot; to bulls to the wall, zero boundaries, crystal wand in hand, in order to heal. For some people that pendulum swing genuinely happens, and there&#39;s nothing wrong with it, but it&#39;s not a requirement.</p><p>Myth 2: Healing means you have to leave or blow up your marriageI talk about why deconstructing purity culture doesn&#39;t automatically mean the end of your relationship, what actually tends to change, and why the process can get messy without being doomed.</p><p>Myth 3: Healing means you have to leave your faith altogetherI explain the difference between deconstructing harmful teachings and leaving your faith completely, and why you don&#39;t have to become a Tantra teacher, an atheist, or adopt any particular spiritual practice once you start this work.</p><p>Myth 4: Healing means you have to want BDSM, swinging, or anything &quot;extreme&quot;I get into why staying vanilla and monogamous doesn&#39;t make you any less healed, and why being sexually liberated is an internal feeling, not a performance.</p><p> I also talk about the paradox that you are already whole, and that healing is about remembering that rather than reaching some perfect future version of yourself.</p><p>Whether you&#39;ve left the Faith, you&#39;re still practising, or you&#39;re somewhere in the messy middle, this episode is for you.</p><p>I also share details of my upcoming live workshop, Healing from Purity Culture, on 28 September.</p><p>Join us here: <a href="https://lucyrowett.podia.com/healing-from-purity-culture" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://lucyrowett.podia.com/healing-from-purity-culture</a></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li>Healing from Purity Culture workshop: <a href="https://lucyrowett.podia.com/healing-from-purity-culture">https://lucyrowett.podia.com/healing-from-purity-culture</a></li><li>The Routledge International Handbook of Sexual Compulsivity and Clinical Sexology (I wrote Chapter 28 on the impact of purity culture): <a href="https://www.routledge.com/The-Routledge-International-Handbook-of-Sexual-Compulsivity-and-Clinical-Sexology/Neves/p/book/9781032771977" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://