#38: Are You Overcomplicating Your Low Libido? (Yes, Yes You Are)

<p>If you&#39;ve been going round and round in your head about how to fix your low libido, this episode is for you.</p><p>In this episode, I explore why we tend to overcomplicate libido and desire, and offer a completely different view on understanding your relationship with intimacy and pleasure.</p><p><strong>Episode summary:</strong></p><ul><li>Redefining libido beyond just feeling horny- Moving away from the myth that libido must mean an irrepressible urge for sex</li><li>Sociosexual scripts and cultural conditioning - How society&#39;s narrow definition of what counts &quot;normal&quot; sex means you&#39;re already blocking yourself</li><li>When you&#39;re having &quot;duty sex&quot;</li><li>Understanding your upbringing and conditioning around sex</li></ul><ul><li>The difference between spontaneous vs responsive desire - Understanding that waiting for spontaneous horniness is an unreliable marker for great intimacy</li></ul><ul><li>Thinking about your libido as the &quot;canary in the coal mine&quot; - Viewing low libido as your body signaling something needs support rather than something broken</li><li>What can block your desire and why</li></ul><ul><li>What feeds desire</li><li>The importance of context - The mental load, gender roles, patriarchy, household dynamics, and creating the right environment for bonking</li><li>A client story</li><li>When you&#39;re highly sensitive and sensory</li><li>Education and models of desire - Overview of research from the Kinsey Institute on different types of desire patterns</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Quotes:<em>&quot;Waiting for your libido to arrive magically in order to have great sex is a really unreliable marker - it&#39;s like wanting to make a million quid but waiting to win the lottery instead of creating a business plan.&quot;</em></p><p><em>&quot;We still live in a world where female sexuality and women&#39;s bodies are something that we give. Sex is something we give, not something we enjoy and experience.&quot;</em></p><p><br><em>&quot;How much has duty sex played into your intimate life, where sex was something you gave alongside all the many other things you&#39;ve given? Your body and vagina is just another thing that you give - or as one of my mentors said, you&#39;re caretaking your husband with your vagina.&quot;</em>Come to my new masterclass for women and vulva owners: Reignite Your Desire on September 23rd. It&#39;s recorded if you can&#39;t come live:<a href="https://lucyrowett.com/reignite-you