How Often Are Healthy Married Couples Actually Having Sex? A Sex Therapist Answers

Welcome back to The Pre Nup, the podcast where we talk honestly about love, weddings, and everything in between.

This week, Adriana sits down with Dr. Love Lea — an Ivy League-trained couples therapist with a PhD in clinical sexology — to talk about the part of getting married no one prepares you for: the actual marriage.

We spend so much time obsessing over the dress, the venue, and the seating chart — but how much time are couples actually spending preparing for life after "I do"? Dr. Love Lea breaks down why premarital coaching can lower your odds of divorce by 31%, what to actually talk about before you walk down the aisle, and why the "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" mindset is one of the biggest threats to a modern marriage.

From intimacy and communication to conflict, money, in-laws, and the conversations most couples are too scared to have — Dr. Love Lea brings real, modern, judgment-free advice that meets couples where they're at. Whether you're religious, spiritual, secular, or somewhere in between, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who's engaged, newly married, or dating with intention.

If you're searching for premarital counseling tips, advice for engaged couples, or how to build a marriage that actually lasts — this episode is for you.

Episode Highlights

• Why couples spend $35K on the wedding and $0 on the marriage — and how Dr. Love Lea wants to flip that• The statistic every engaged couple needs to hear: how premarital coaching cuts divorce risk by 31%• Premarital counseling vs. religious pre-Cana: what's the difference and do you need both?• The "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" myth and why it's quietly hurting your relationship• How often healthy couples are actually having sex (and why quality beats quantity)• The fights that seem stupid but mean something deeper• How to have hard conversations without making your partner feel attacked• Why Dr. Love Lea treats the relationship as one body — not two sides• Wedding vendor tip: why an extra pair of comfortable shoes is non-negotiable on your wedding dayFind Dr. Love Lea: Instagram: @DrLoveLea / Website: drlovelea.com