I Was Almost a Killer, Here's How I Got There...

<p>There’s a point where you can’t blame your past anymore. You have to look in the mirror and decide who you’re going to become.</p><p><br /></p><p>My guest, Shane Goodbar, has lived both sides of that truth.</p><p><br /></p><p>Shane was sexually abused as a child, learned to hide behind a mask, and eventually found escape through alcohol and drugs. What started as a way to numb the pain spiraled into addiction, broken relationships, multiple DUIs, jail, and a moment where he came terrifyingly close to taking another man’s life.</p><p><br /></p><p>But this isn’t just a story about addiction. It’s about accountability, recovery, fatherhood, faith, forgiveness, and what happens when you finally stop seeing yourself as the victim of your own life.</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>In this episode:</strong></p><ul><li>How childhood sexual abuse shaped Shane’s identity and need to escape</li><li>Why drugs and alcohol became a way to stop feeling</li><li>The rock-bottom moment that finally broke through years of denial</li><li>How a two-year therapeutic community completely rebuilt his life</li><li>Why recovery meant learning to love the man staring back in the mirror</li></ul><p><br /></p><p>What stayed with me most was Shane’s willingness to own all of it. Not excuse it. Not hide from it. Own it.</p><p><br /></p><p>Because no matter how lost you’ve become, your past doesn’t have to be where your story ends. But eventually, you have to take the first step.</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>Key Moments:</strong></p><p>00:00 The man behind the mask</p><p>03:18 Hiding childhood sexual abuse</p><p>06:02 When drugs became the escape</p><p>09:41 Living two different lives</p><p>13:15 Addiction starts taking over</p><p>17:46 The relationship that changed everything</p><p>21:07 Becoming a father changes the path</p><p>24:49 The lie he told himself about fatherhood</p><p>27:07 His fourth DUI and arrest</p><p>30:04 Ten days after leaving jail</p><p>33:09 When rock bottom finally hit</p><p>36:03 Facing the man he had become</p><p>39:01 Learning to love himself again</p><p>42:03 The identity crisis facing men</p><p>45:12 Finding God after years of pain</p><p>48:26 Why surrender finally brought peace</p><p>51:03 His message to anyone still lost</p><p>53:02 What recovery actually gives you</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>Connect with Me:</strong></p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/tyler.hall/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/tyler.hall/