Did I Want HIM—or Did I Want Marriage? | Divorce, Motherhood & Starting Over (Ep 117)

What happens when you realize you may have loved what your marriage REPRESENTED more than the relationship itself?

Jacquie Langworthy grew up in a loving two-parent household with highly involved parents. That upbringing shaped her expectations for marriage, family and what her future was “supposed” to look like.

So when she reached her late 20s, marriage felt like the natural next step.

But looking back, Jacquie can now ask a much harder question:

Did I deeply love the man—or did I love the idea of marriage, family and what we represented together?

In this candid conversation on The Secret Formula of Femininity, licensed psychologist Dr. Nicole Monteiro sits down with education entrepreneur, mother and Raising Scholars host Jacquie Langworthy to talk about marriage, divorce, motherhood, over-functioning, parenting guilt and rebuilding a life that no longer looks the way you originally imagined it would.

Jacquie opens up about:

❤️ Growing up with parents who modeled commitment and involvement—but not necessarily healthy conflict

❤️ Meeting her former husband at Essence Fest

❤️ The social pressure she felt to marry in her late 20s

❤️ Realizing she may have been more attached to what the relationship represented than to the relationship itself

❤️ Traditional gender-role expectations inside a marriage where she was also financially contributing