Live Coaching Kathleen 2 (of 6): The Fear Underneath the Fear of a Major Career Shift

<p>This is the second session for my client Kathleen, and we start with what she noticed after our first conversation. We talked about how she felt completely drained afterward, like someone had drugged her. I shared how that’s not a bad sign, and that it’s a sign that the work is happening in her body and not just in her head.</p><p>Next we explore what she'd been sitting with between sessions, and something surfaces that neither of us went looking for. The conversation started with the fear of disappointment, and she finds the layer underneath it, which is unworthiness. She goes between thinking ‘if it doesn't happen, it's because I'm not good enough. And if it does happen, I'll feel a different version of not good enough, like I don't belong here.’</p><p>We also talk about what lights her up, and I point out something I want you to catch: what she describes is context agnostic. While she did talk about it in context with the business she’s launching, it could apply to any job, situation or career path. This is helpful because once you know the dynamics that energize you, you can place that anywhere.</p><p>You'll discover that this session doesn't land on a tidy conclusion, which is often how it goes. The hope is that we bring what needs to come to the surface in the conversation and we don’t always get to “what now”, in the session itself. Tune in to hear what happens when you go one layer deeper than the first insight that comes to the surface.</p><p><strong>Episode Highlights:</strong></p><ul><li>Why she felt physically depleted after session one, and what that indicates.</li><li>The layer underneath the fear of disappointment.</li><li>Why knowing what excites you can be an insight for any context.</li><li>The zero to ten worthiness scale, and what would move her one tenth of a point.</li><li>The desire to address the tree in the way, while dreading it at the same time.</li></ul><p><strong>Quotables:</strong></p><p><em>"There's another layer underneath the fear of disappointment, which is the fear of unworthiness."</em> — Kathleen</p><p><em>"The fact that you have a physical manifestation is an indication that the work is happening in your body, and not just in your head."</em> — Tosca DiMatteo</p><p><em>"Knowing what the dynamics are can be super helpful, because you can place that anywhere."</em> — Tosca DiMatteo</p><p><strong>Tosca's Links and Resources:</strong></p><ul><li>Take the Inner Critic Compass quiz: <a href="https://www.toscadimatteo.com/