How Traumatic Narcissism Harms and How Survivors Heal with Daniel Shaw

Understanding subjugation trauma, coercive control, dissociation, self-blame, and the clinical work of helping survivors reclaim trust in themselves. Social media platforms are filled with attention-grabbing posts on how to spot, leave, or recover from someone who displays narcissistic characteristics. While those 90-second efforts offer an interesting overview, they rarely provide us with a meaningful foundation for understanding the psychology of a traumatizing narcissist or how their behavior impacts survivors.

On this episode of Transforming Trauma, host Emily Ruth welcomes back Daniel Shaw, author of Traumatic Narcissism Theory: A Contemporary Psychoanalytic Introduction, to discuss Traumatic Narcissism Theory (TNT), a framework he created and has refined over thirty years. Through personal stories and contributions from many historically influential psychologists, Daniel charts the evolution of narcissism theory and clearly explains the utility of TNT. He also offers clinicians a roadmap for supporting survivors of traumatizing narcissism as they regain their confidence and recover their autonomy.

In this conversation:

How Traumatic Narcissism Theory differs from conventional approaches to narcissism

How to recognize subjugation trauma, coercive control, DARVO, dissociation, and self-blame

Eight recurring behaviors from traumatizing narcissism and its impact on survivors

Why self-negation can function as a protective survival strategy—and why therapists shouldn't rush to remove it

How supervision, patience, psychoeducation, and faith in human healing potential can support clinicians doing this challenging work

Transforming Trauma is grateful to Daniel for his enduring willingness to trust our community with his personal story and share his incredible professional insights with us.

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