Deep Dive: When One Family Member's Moods Are Running the House

This Deep Dive series is all about reducing the friction between ourselves and our kids when trying to communicate with them, whether it's yelling less, finding real reasons for constant defiance, or picking our battles.

What do we do when one of our kid's moods is affecting everyone else in the house? Whether it's anxiety, frustration, rigidity, or plain old temper tantrums, understanding where it's coming from is the first step. But even when we don't allow emotions to be an excuse poor behavior, that misbehavior can happen anyhow—and walking on eggshells is no way to teach the dysregulated person better emotional skills.

In this episode, we discuss:

the sometimes hidden needs of the other kids in the house

why "fair" is not the same thing as "equal"

the single most important factor for positive family well-being

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Our episode ⁠"When One of Our Kids Is Taking All Our Bandwidth"⁠

Nicole Schwarz for ⁠imperfectfamilies.com⁠: ⁠When The Siblings of a Difficult Child Feel Ignored⁠

Leigh Anderson for Lifehacker: ⁠What to Do If Your Child's Behavior Is Ruining Your Relationship With Your Partner⁠

Pamela Li for Parenting for Bain: ⁠Emotional Regulation in Children | A Complete Guide⁠

Jane Indergaard for ADHD Newsstand: ⁠It's Never About Me: The Hidden Needs of Siblings⁠