Why you keep choosing the wrong people, the hidden trauma behind your relationship patterns

Have you ever looked at your relationships and thought, why do I keep ending up here? Maybe you keep choosing emotionally unavailable people. Maybe you become the caretaker, the pursuer, the one who works harder to make the relationship work. Maybe you recognize the pattern while you're in it and still can't seem to stop repeating it. What if some of the patterns you think are simply bad choices are actually old coping strategies that once helped you survive pain? Trauma doesn't always announce itself as trauma. Sometimes it looks like the person you're attracted to. The way you respond when someone pulls away, the amount of rejection you can tolerate.