EP 22: Who Told You You’re Behind?

It’s hard to appreciate your own life when you’re constantly measuring it against somebody else’s.

Their career is moving faster. They bought the house. They got married. Their business is growing. Their family looks perfect. And thanks to social media, somebody else’s wins are always close enough to make you question whether you’re falling behind.

In this episode, Kier gets honest about comparison, social media, and the pressure to keep up with timelines that may have never belonged to us in the first place. He breaks down how comparison can turn someone else’s success into evidence of our own shortcomings—even when we don’t know the full story behind what we’re seeing.

Kier also challenges the idea that comparison automatically means jealousy. Sometimes you can genuinely be happy for someone else while their success forces you to evaluate your own life: “I’m happy for you, but I’m sad for me.” The problem isn’t always having the thought; it’s what we allow that thought to make us believe about ourselves.

Drawing from his own career, therapy work, and experiences as a creator, Kier explores why somebody else’s success may come with sacrifices you can’t see—and may not even want. Instead of borrowing someone else’s definition of success, he encourages us to get clear about what actually matters to us and decide which race is ours to run.

If you’ve ever looked around and wondered why you’re not further ahead, this episode is a reminder that somebody else’s timeline is not proof that you’re behind. Your story gets to unfold on its own time.

In This Episode

Why comparison feels so convincing

How social media turns someone else’s highlight reel into your measuring stick

The cycle of noticing differences, taking inventory, and fixating on what you lack

Why comparison isn’t always rooted in jealousy

How to hold two truths: “I’m happy for you, but I’m sad for me”