focus more on you than them

<p>When we begin getting to know someone, we may suddenly start to constantly think about what they are up to, why they aren&#39;t texting back, or we may create a certain idea of them in our heads that we want them to be. This may lead to us getting hurt, upset, disappointed, or freaking out over how this person is living their life. Maybe they post something that makes you overthink your place in their life or their intentions with you. Maybe you see them do something with their life that makes you question how you will fit in with their life. Maybe you&#39;re wondering, &quot;why aren&#39;t they thinking about me??&quot;.</p><p><br></p><p>In a way, we wish to have control over how this person treats us, how they view us, and their intentions with us. In essence, we wish to have control over this person. We want our ideas and assumptions about them to be true, and when they do not match these visions, we are confused, upset, sad, or hurt. </p><p><br></p><p>And what did they actually do except live their life?</p><p><br></p><p>This one goes out to the overthinkers, the ones who are always trying to be one step ahead, and the ones who, when they meet a potential romantic partner, fall head over heels almost instantly. </p><p><br></p><p>Shoutout to you. Sending you all my love and support &lt;3</p><p><br></p><p>If you enjoyed this episode, share it with someone who gets it. </p><p><br></p><p>If you find yourself struggling to let go of control or find yourself stuck in the same unhappy patterns, whether in your personal life or dating, try 1:1 Coaching with me!! Go to <a href="https://www.livemindfulandaware.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">livemindfulandaware.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>1:1 and group mindfulness sessions at <a href="https://www.livemindfulandaware.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">livemindfulandaware.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>Mindful &amp; Aware is also on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@mindfulandawarepod" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">YouTube</a> now!!</p><p><br></p><p>Check out the official <a href="https://www.livemindfulandaware.com/officialmandaworkbook" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Mindful &amp; Aware Workbook</a> designed to build confidence, emotional intelligence, intuition, &amp; self-love!!</p>