Unlearning Doesn't End It Just Gets Quieter: What Parents of LGBTQ Kids Need to Know

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Love is proven by what you're willing to unlearn. This is a check-in on that, for you and for me.

Year-one unlearning is loud: fear, shame, and often a full religious deconstruction, and impossible to miss. What comes after is quieter and easy to overlook entirely: the automatic reach for a label, a tidy category, before you actually know anything true about someone. This episode is an honest look at where allyship goes once the big, obvious work is behind you.

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

Recognize the difference between year-one unlearning and the quieter unlearning that followsNotice the habit of labeling, and why it creates comfort for you and walls for someone elseRun a quarterly self-audit to keep your unlearning honest and ongoingNormalize still catching yourself, years into this work, as the actual practice rather than failure

Press play for the full Quarterly Unlearning Check-In, five questions to return to every three months.

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