23. What Narcissistic Abuse Does to You | PTSD & Healing with Allie on Sh!t Creek Survivors podcast

Today I am sharing a podcast episode from Sh!t Creek Survivors. I was recently on as a guest to talk about the impacts of narcissism. If you are a fan of my podcast, then you've heard a lot of this before, but maybe not as one story, reaching from my childhood to now.

Cam is a great interviewer, and I think there is a lot of value in this episode. While recording, I realised that we might have more in common than I thought - so I reached out to Cam to see if he'd be a guest on an upcoming episode to tell his story of coercion. He agreed, so stay tuned for that one in the next month or so.

Thanks for listening, and here are the shownotes from Cam's pod to give you more context, and contacts for him as well:

Narcissistic abuse can leave lasting emotional wounds that impact your self-esteem, relationships, and mental health. In this episode of Sh!t Creek Survivors, somatic coach and survivor Allie Treen opens up about her experiences growing up with a covert narcissistic mother and how it shaped her identity and emotional wellbeing.We dive deep into what narcissism really is, the different types of narcissists, and how manipulation, gaslighting, and control can distort perception and create PTSD and trauma.Allie shares her journey toward healing, including practical strategies like gray rocking, inner child work, somatic therapy, and boundary setting. She also discusses how to rebuild self-worth, recognize healthy love, and reclaim your identity after emotional abuse.If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse in any form—whether from a parent, partner, friend, or colleague—this episode provides insight, validation, and actionable tools for recovery.

Key Topicsnarcissistic abuse, narcissism, covert narcissist, narcissistic parent, toxic relationships, emotional abuse, gaslighting, trauma healing, PTSD recovery, complex PTSD, healing from narcissistic abuse, narcissistic abuse survivor, somatic healing, somatic therapy, inner child healing, gray rock method, boundary setting, self love after trauma, rebuilding self worth, mental healthEpisode Chapters 00:00 – Introduction

00:16 – Meet Allie Treen: Somatic coach and survivor

01:07 – How narcissism affects identity and development

01:47 – Types of narcissists: covert vs grandiose

02:42 – Control tactics and manipulation

03:20 – Narcissistic rage and emotional volatility

04:33 – Making yourself smaller in toxic relationships

05:29 – Gaslighting and self-doubt