75. You're Not Too Needy, You're Anxiously Attached with Ashley Kaylor

<p><strong>Have you ever felt completely confident in every area of your life, and then become completely undone by someone you&#39;re dating?</strong></p><p>In this episode I&#39;m joined by Ashley Kaylor, a certified attachment style coach and professional matchmaker. We go deep on anxious attachment: what it actually is, where it comes from, and why it shows up most painfully in the dynamics that feel the most intense.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>In this episode we cover:</strong></p><p>✨What anxious attachment actually is and how it develops in early childhood </p><p>✨ Why anxiously attached women are drawn to hot and cold dynamics, and why those dynamics feel more magnetic than healthy ones </p><p>✨ The anxious-avoidant loop: why it&#39;s so hard to leave even when you know it&#39;s not working </p><p>✨ What&#39;s really happening when you over-text, over-explain, or can&#39;t let an argument go </p><p>✨ How to stop performing a cooler version of yourself while silently spiralling </p><p>✨ How attachment styles can shift, and what moving toward secure actually looks and feels like</p><p><br>Whether you&#39;re currently in a pattern that&#39;s costing you or you just want to understand yourself better in love, this conversation will give you language for something you&#39;ve been living without words for.</p><p><br><strong>Take Ashley&#39;s free attachment style quiz: </strong><a href="https://www.ashleykaylor.com/attachment-style-quiz">https://www.ashleykaylor.com/attachment-style-quiz</a><br><strong>Connect with Ashley:</strong> <a href="https://www.ashleykaylor.com/">https://www.ashleykaylor.com</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Work with Alicia:</strong> <a href="www.aliciainspired.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">www.aliciainspired.com</a></p><p><strong>Music:</strong> Dawn by Sappheiros @<a href="https://soundcloud.com/sappheirosmusic">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sappheirosmusic⁠⁠</a></p>