What does Biblical Leadership look like in a Marriage?

<p>I saw a video of a wife listing the things that would immediately end her marriage, and the top item on her list was her husband finding God and joining a patriarchal religion. Not a discussion. An instant divorce. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/biblical-leadership-in-marriage/">blog post here</a> for more details and links.</p>

<p>And I wish I could say I was surprised, but headship has earned its bad reputation, usually from Christians who read a verse or two and build a whole theology out of it. So in this episode I walk through what I think biblical leadership actually looks like, based not on one or two verses but on the model of leadership that runs through the entire Bible, including how God leads us.</p>

<p>Five principles: freedom flows down while responsibility flows up, following is an invitation rather than compulsion, good leaders choose long-term flourishing over short-term comfort, trust gets earned so it doesn't require understanding, and if you have to reach for your authority, you have already failed to lead. Along the way: why the meal-planning question is really about mental load, the treadmill rule my wife asked me to enforce, when a wife should not submit, and why the clearest picture of headship in the Bible is a man on the floor washing feet.</p>

<p>In this episode:</p>

<ul>

<li>(0:00) Intro</li>

<li>(0:19) The instant-divorce list</li>

<li>(1:57) Five principles from the whole Bible</li>

<li>(2:35) 1. Freedom flows down, responsibility flows up</li>

<li>(4:01) The meal-planning example</li>

<li>(5:06) 2. Following is an invitation, not compulsion</li>

<li>(7:39) When you shouldn't submit</li>