#505 Cock Pep Talk: What Your Penis Wants You to Know

In this episode, we’re joined by Andre Lazarus, Somatic Intimacy Guide, sex and intimacy coach, and one of the professional surrogate partners featured on the UK series Virgin Island.

Andre takes us behind the scenes of his unconventional work, including what it’s actually like to help people navigate intimacy challenges — and whether being a surrogate partner means, well… what you might think it means.

We then get into the big questions around men and sex: what Andre wishes more men knew, what he wishes they’d do less of, and what he wishes more women understood about supporting the men they’re intimate with.

We also tackle two issues that come up frequently in Andre’s work: erection difficulties and “rapid ejaculation.” Why do they happen? How much does performance pressure play a role? And what can men actually do about it?

And finally, perhaps the most important question of all: If your penis could use a little pep talk, what should you say to it?

Expect a candid, funny, and practical conversation about sex, confidence, vulnerability, communication, and learning to get out of your head — and back into your body.

What a surrogate partner actually does

Andre’s experience on Virgin Island

Men, sex, and performance pressure

Erection difficulties and rapid ejaculation

What men should do more — and less — in bed

What women can do to better support male partners