251: The wellness industry is making you more burnt out

The wellness industry and self-help culture have created a cycle where people “heal and regulate” endlessly, making them fragile and stuck in internal excavation of wounds, attachment, nervous systems, and beliefs while deprioritizing outward building, contributing, and showing up in the world.

This self-examination loop can worsen wellbeing because humans are wired for belonging, being needed, competence, making things, and community—needs that can’t be met by thinking alone but by going outward. Regulation is as access to choice: choosing how to show up and contribute even when not feeling great.

00:00 Wellness Trap Intro

00:14 Regulation As Choice

01:05 Self Help Loop Problem

02:03 Integrate And Go Outward

02:30 What Humans Need

03:01 Cycle Of Isolation

04:01 Redefining Regulation

04:26 Sustainable Effort Not Grind

05:00 Coaching Invite Wrap Up

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