We’re Open… But What Does That Actually Mean? EP 797

On EP 797 of TAGSPODCAST, Steve V and Teddy Alexis get into the complicated, funny and sometimes uncomfortable realities of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy.

Inspired by material from Ransom Blake’s new book I Love You, Now Let’s Fuck Other People: A Book About Open Relationships, Honesty and Not Losing Your Mind, Steve and Teddy unpack the idea that simply saying “we’re open” doesn’t actually tell you very much.

What are the rules? Do you tell your partner before a hookup or afterward? Are repeat hookups okay? What about exes, mutual friends, sleepovers, dinner dates—or catching feelings?

The guys also dig into a Reddit conversation about communication in newly open relationships and a wild Queerty story involving a hookup that turns into nine hours of sex, talking and connection with a married man in an open relationship.