Episode 377: Kate On: Unraveling Divorce Guilt

Guilt. So many women feel it intensely when they're contemplating divorce, or when they've already made the decision to leave. In this episode, I'm talking about the guilt of breaking your marriage vows, the guilt of doing this to your kids, and what to do when that guilt becomes overwhelming.

Women carry guilt as though they woke up one morning, looked around at a perfectly healthy marriage and a perfectly happy family, and casually decided to blow it all up. That's not what happened. By the time most women seriously begin contemplating divorce, they've usually been trying to save the marriage for years, asking for conversations, asking for counseling, trying every possible way to be heard and understood.

These stories deserve a closer look, and so does the question underneath them: whose voice is telling you that you should feel guilty, anyway?

What you'll hear about in this episode:

What marriage vows actually promise, and why abuse or emotional abandonment breaks them long before anyone files paperwork

Why "I'm doing this to my kids" ignores what they've already been living with, and how much they sense even unsaid

How to recognize whose voice is really behind the guilt, yours or someone else

Why feeling guilty isn't the same as being guilty, and how conditioning can make a healthy boundary feel wrong

The questions worth asking when the guilt gets overwhelming, including what staying would require you to deny

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