Why Your Sexless Marriage Isn't About Sex | Tressa Yonekawa

She shut down. Walked out of the room. And you spent the next three days replaying the one sentence that did it.

That right there is a trigger talking to a trigger. And it's exactly what my guest today spends her career untangling.

Tressa Yonekawa holds a graduate degree in cognitive neuroscience for communication. Twenty five years in, she's used it with corporate leaders, celebrity clients, and couples who feel more like roommates than lovers.

We get into her own near drowning at four years old, the voice she heard underwater that redirected her entire life, and how her father's war trauma and a chaotic childhood taught her to read the patterns hiding underneath a fight.

Here's what you'll walk away with.

The exact phrase that stops a fight before it starts ("I have a story that...")

Why "we're not having sex anymore" is almost never actually about sex

Her four layer Trust Pyramid: presence, emotional safety, curiosity, then trust

The one question most couples have never asked each other, and what happens when they finally do

How she navigated her own divorce with grace instead of a courtroom fight

Gorgeous, if you have ever gone quiet mid conversation because you didn't have the words, this one is for you.

Watch the full conversation now and tell me in the comments which tool you're trying first.