299. The most important change begins with you (and how to get started) | with Becky Aste

<p>When you&#39;re struggling in your marriage, it&#39;s natural to focus on what your partner needs to change. But what happens when you turn your attention inward and begin creating more safety and connection within yourself?</p><p>In this conversation, Alexandra Stockwell, MD welcomes trauma-informed marriage coach and somatic practitioner Becky Aste, who shares the story of taking her own marriage from separation and the brink of divorce to a thriving relationship. After years of therapy, self-development, and trying to understand their patterns, Becky discovered somatic healing and began working with her nervous system in a completely different way.</p><p>Together, Alexandra and Becky explore the difference between understanding your relationship patterns and actually changing them, how anxious and avoidant nervous systems can get caught in a painful dance, and why becoming more grounded in yourself can send a completely different signal to your partner.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you&#39;ll discover:</strong></p><p> • Why understanding your relationship patterns isn&#39;t enough to change them • What “somatic healing” means and how it impacts your nervous system • How tiny shifts in your own body and behavior change the dynamic between you and your partner • Why an anxious or avoidant partner isn&#39;t necessarily uncaring or uninterested • How creating safety within yourself is an invitation for greater connection • Why secure attachment is a learnable skill, not something only developed in childhood</p><p>You don&#39;t have to wait for your partner to change before you begin creating a different relationship. Sometimes the most powerful place to start is within yourself, one small moment of safety, presence, and connection at a time. The results are so worthwhile!</p><p><strong>Connect with Becky Aste:</strong></p><p>Website: <a href="http://www.idobreakthrough.com/"><u>www.idobreakthrough.com</u></a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste"> <u>https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste</u></a></p><p><br></p>