How Often Are We Fighting For Our Honor — Not About The Issue? w/ Relationship Coach Kim Polinder

If we look at any disagreement, whether you call it a fight or a conflict, we can ask, “What is at stake.” Sometimes there may be a real danger or consequence involved. However. What we find in therapy and counseling is that many times, actually the majority of our common conflicts, there is nothing of danger or serious consequence involved. What we are actually fighting for, as my guest says, is our honor. Our identity. We feel our character is under threat. I resonate with this concept very, very personally, as you will hear. My guest is Kim Polinder, a relationship coach and therapist with more than 600,000 followers across all social media platforms and millions of views of her viral relationship advice videos. Kim was a Fortune 500 tech engineer who left that field of work behind to follow her passion for psychology and emotional healing. With master's degrees in Clinical Mental Health and Spiritual Psychology, Kim blends techniques from Cognitive-Behavioral therapy and inner child work. Kim has her own story of dealing with her feelings of honor amidst conflict, and significant issues around abandonment. As a baby she was discarded onto a path in rural South Korea, where she was found, taken to a children’s home and finally adopted. From there she went on a journey of self-acceptance that fuels her empathy for her clients. I gained a lot from this conversation with Kim. She has a new book, titled WHY WE FIGHT: A Transformative Road Map to Healing Conflict in Any Relationship. You can find her at kimpolinder.com

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