The Resistance Solution with Becca Silver

When someone resists change, what are they really trying to tell us?

In this episode of The Language of Behavior, Josh is joined by educator, coach, author, and founder of The Whole Educator, Becca Silver. Together, they explore why resistance is not simply someone being difficult. It is often a signal that a need is not being met.

Becca shares the framework behind her book, The Resistance Solution, including five mindsets that support meaningful change, value, belonging, success, growth, and ownership. She explains the difference between compliance, buy in, and true ownership, and why leaders need to get curious about what is underneath the pushback instead of trying to force change.

The conversation also explores the role belonging plays in mental wellness, why isolation can feel painful, and how reflective listening can help us better understand the people around us. Josh and Becca remind listeners that complaints and resistance can be valuable feedback when we are willing to pause, listen, and ask better questions.

About Becca Silver

Becca Silver is a speaker, leadership trainer, Resistance Specialist, and author of The Resistance Solution: Why Educators Resist and What They Need Instead. She helps instructional coaches and school leaders understand the human side of change. Becca is also the founder of The Whole Educator and host of the long-running podcast Coaching the Whole Educator, where she explores practical ways leaders can support teachers as whole people while improving practice.

Becca’s work focuses on a simple but often overlooked truth: resistance isn’t defiance. It’s information. Through her Catalyst Mindsets™ framework, she helps leaders identify the unmet needs underneath resistance and respond in ways that build trust, ownership, and real progress. Her sessions blend research, real coaching stories, and practical tools educators can use immediately.

Follow Becca Silver

Website: https://www.thewholeeducator.comTwitter (X): @BeccaSilver_EduInstagram: @thewholeeducatorFacebook: The Whole Educator CommunityLinkedin: Becca SilverYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLXwwkdnMVSc3gu9Uu1HOv0-8vxvfrcp-WFree Resistance Diagnostic Assessment: https://www.thewholeeducator.com/resistance-auditBook: https://link.amazon/B00Suol9d

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